However, mainstream LGBTQ culture has a complicated relationship with the T.
Historically, gay bars were sanctuaries for homosexuals. But for a trans woman, entering a gay male space could be hostile. Similarly, a trans man might feel invisible in lesbian-centric spaces. The rise of explicitly trans-inclusive and trans-centric spaces (community centers, support groups, online forums) is a relatively recent phenomenon. Mainstream LGBTQ culture has sometimes struggled to de-center the gay male and cisgender lesbian experience to accommodate non-binary and binary transgender needs.
Classic LGB coming-out narratives often center on accepting attraction and introducing a same-gender partner to family. The transgender narrative is often more destabilizing to the family unit. A trans person’s coming out changes the parent’s understanding of their child’s gender, often requiring a grieving process for the "daughter they lost" to gain a son, or vice versa. It involves medical, legal, and social transitions that LGB identities generally do not require.